Ray Miller was born on November 8, 1969, in the southwestern Oklahoma town of Marlow. His dad was a carpenter and mom was a housewife.

Miller gained his first state title in fifth grade. He won another grade school state title in sixth grade and then went on to win three junior high state titles in seventh, eighth and ninth grade. He finished out high school with three state titles, two times ending up as the outstanding wrestler of the tournament, and in his senior year being voted the outstanding wrestler of Oklahoma.

During his senior year he was invited to wrestle in the Pittsburgh Classic and it pit what were voted as the best senior high school wrestlers in the United States against Pennsylvania teams in one big dual meet. He won defeating Troy Sunderland of Pennsylvania. It was at the Pittsburgh classic that he would meet his future coach Bobby Douglas. That's when everything came full circle because when he was a child he grew up on Bobby Douglas's wrestling books, The Takedown 1 and The Takedown 2.

Miller studied the books while growing up and had already trained to Coach Douglas's style. He ended up signing with Arizona State and Coach Bobby Douglas. He spent the next five years, redshirting his freshman year, honing his skills under Coach Douglas and then his senior year under Coach Leroy Smith.

Miller ended up with four All American titles being a two time finalist and attaining a national title in 1993 at 167 lbs. He coached at Arizona State for another year and then moved back to Oklahoma and coached at the University of Oklahoma for another year and a half. He currently lives back in his home town of Marlow and helps out with the wrestling program whenever he can.